The Sacred Garden of Maliko (in Makawao) offers several locations for weddings whether in the presence and peace of the Buddha, The Tara Altar, Mother Shrine, in the Labyrinth underneath the Kukui Grove, or beside the stream. Of course, beach and boat weddings are also available as well.

Two ceremonies—one traditional and one non-traditional are offered for you as a starting point. Feel free to mix and match, cut and paste or personalize to your heart's content. We can change the readings or the prayers, include a lei exchange, or not. Eve will be happy to work with you if you prefer a specific denomination for your wedding (i.e.Buddhist wedding, Christian Wedding, Spiritual but not religious, etc.) We even do full moon weddings!

Whether on the labyrinth, beach or sea, Eve will work with you to design a ceremony to honor this stage of your life.

All Ceremonies include:
Officiant
Personalization of ceremony/vows at your request
Copy of ceremony on decorative paper
Filing of license
A copy of "How to Love Your Marriage: Making Your Closest Relationship Work"

"Love is simply not enough to make a marriage work. Statistics show that couples wait six years too long to get help. Taking the time to gain important relationship skills BEFORE there is a problem can save you immense heartache, pain and expense. The skills and tools offered in this book will help you with all your relationships—with yourself, your sweetheart, children, etc. i don't just want to help you make the commitment to each other, I want to help you make that commitment lasting and loving."—Eve Hogan

Fees depend on the ceremony type, location, time and number of guests and additions (help with coordinating, beach permits, flowers, candles, rehearsals, etc) .Starting range $250-400.

The pricing for boat weddings varies on size of boat, number of guests, whether it is a private charter or shared boat, photography/videography, etc. Please call for pricing. Weddings with Eve are also availble at the Maui Ocean Center—even in the Shark Tank! We call that taking the Ultimate Plunge!

Pre-marriage (or marriage) coaching: $100 an hour with a 2 hour minimum needed.

Permits:

Beach weddings require a state permit ($30 additional)

Marriage License

You must have a valid Hawaii marriage license to be legally married. There is no waiting period, no blood tests are required, and the license is valid statewide for 30 days. You do not need witnesses in Hawaii. Both partners must be at least 18 years of age (unless they have written consent from parents or legal guardians), and must appear together before a licensing agent on any island. Proof of age may be requested in the form of a driver's license or I.D. If either partner has been married before, he or she will have to state the date, county and state (or country) in which the marriage was ended. The license also requires the full names of each partner's parents and their place of birth. The fee for the license is $60, and is payable in cash to the licensing agent. For a complete packet of information, contact the Department of Health at (808) 586-4544. Each community has a licensing agent as well.

Maui Wedding Photography and Videography:

Photography and videography are additional. Eve works with a number of excellent photographers and videographers. Shasta Rose, Greg Hoxsie and Benja Iglesis are recommended photographers. Kevin Herrington is recommended as an above water videographer and Steve Hogan for underwater videography.

Photos on this page are thanks to Benja Iglesis, Steve Hogan, Shasta Rose and Mercer Richards.

Non-Traditional Ceremony (Substitute "Bride" and "Groom" with your names):

Welcome to this celebration of love. Bride and Groom, may this be a moment in time to be remembered and cherished. Today, we celebrate your love. Love is the foundation, the very essence of life. It must be cared for, tended to, and nourished if it is to grow, become strong, and endure.

We say in Hawaii:
Aloha ika ho'o manawanui, Aloha ika loko maika'i, Aloha ike kahi, ike kahi
Love is patient. Love is kind. Love begets love.

Marriage is a very special spiritual connection of two people united on a common path, bringing together love and trust into a single focus. At the same time, your love should give you the strength to stand apart, to seek out your unique destinies, and to grow as individuals.

Reading from Kahlil Gibran: (Any reading of your choice can be placed here, or none. Click here for some reading options)
“Love one another, but make not a bond of love:
Let it rather be a moving sea between the shores of your souls.
Fill each other's cup but drink not from one cup.
Give one another of your bread but eat not from the same loaf.
Sing and dance together and be joyous, but let each one of you be alone,
Even as the strings of a lute are alone
Though they quiver with the same music.
Give your hearts, but not into each other's keeping.
For only the hand of Life can contain your hearts.
And stand together yet not too near together:
For the pillars of the temple stand apart,
And the oak tree and the cypress grow not in each other's shadow.
Let there be spaces in your togetherness,
And let the winds of the heavens dance between you.”

Marriage requires the faith and commitment of two people to love, to stand by each other, and to support one another through both the good times and the difficult. This commitment is the alignment of your words, which speak boldly of your intentions, and your actions, which speak louder than your words. This requires making the time when there is none, listening not only with your ears-but also with your heart, and taking responsibility for your choices. Coming through for each other, time after time.

So, welcome, Bride and Groom, to this moment in your lives, to this place you have come to in each other's hearts. And, may this shining hour be an open door through which you go now to build the dearest of all human relationships: that of two best friends growing old together in marriage, always fathoming deeper depths, and discovering richer facets of one another's soul.

Lei Exchange (OPTIONAL—wording will change based on your lei choices. You get your own leis unless other wise arranged with Eve)
In Hawaii, we have a tradition of sharing beautiful flower leis. The flowers for the leis have been hand picked and woven together much like your love has been chosen and you are now weaving your lives together. The lei expresses love, respect and reverence.

Groom, you may now offer Bridet his lei; This is the very fragrant flower of love. Just like love, the scent is intoxicating and its essence lingers long after the flower.

Bride, you may now offer Groom this lei; Maile is a very rare leaf that must be searched for and gathered and is traditionally worn in honor of special occasions and rites of passage.

So, welcome, Bride and Groom, to this moment in your lives, to this place you have come to in each other's hearts. And, may this shining hour be an open door through which you go now to build the dearest of all human relationships: that of two best friends growing old together in marriage, always fathoming deeper depths, and discovering richer facets of one another's soul.

Groom and Bride, you are here today to declare and to strengthen your love, and to pledge to each other the beginning of a new life together.

Groom, do you receive Bride as your wedded wife to love, comfort, respect, and to share your life with from this day forward?

And, Bride, do you receive Groom as your wedded husband to love, comfort, respect, and to share your life with from this day forward?

We will now seal this promise of marriage with these wedding rings. These rings are symbols of the unbroken unity of love, now to be continued in your married life. The circle has no beginning and no end, it is eternal and everlasting.

Made in the form of the circle, these rings represent the truth of the law of life:
'As we give to each other, we receive from each other.'
So, as you give and receive these rings, let your hearts be joined together in one unbroken circle.

As you place the ring on your beloved's hand and as you receive the ring from the hand of your beloved, remember that this will be the first hand extended to pick you up when you have fallen down and it will be the first hand raised to toast all of your joys and all of your successes from this day forward and forevermore.

Bless this ring, bless Groom who gives it and Bride who receives it. Bless their union with patience, understanding and eternal joy.

VOWS (You can personalize these and use your own if you prefer or add your own sentiments at the end.)
Groom, holding the ring on Bride's hand and looking into her eyes, say these words:

Bride,
With this ring, I marry you,
and promise my faithful love.
I have chosen you above all others
for my partner and companion.
I shall love you,
and honor you,
and share with you life's joys
and life's difficulties.
In sorrow, I shall comfort you,
In times of need, I shall be there for you,
In good times, I shall rejoice with you,
From this day forward and forevermore.

Bless this ring, bless Bride who gives it and Groom who receives it. Bless their union with kindness, friendship and unconditional love.

Bride, holding the ring on Groom's hand and looking into his eyes, say these words:

Groom ,
With this ring, I marry you,
and promise my faithful love.
I have chosen you above all others
for my partner and companion.
I shall love you,
and honor you,
and share with you life's joys
and life's difficulties.
In sorrow, I shall comfort you,
In times of need, I shall be there for you,
In good times, I shall rejoice with you,
From this day forward and forevermore.

As you look upon these rings throughout the years, let them be symbols of the unconditional love that you have for one another, a love that can overcome all obstacles. And when times call for you to be apart, may you always return to your togetherness in the same spirit of love that you have felt here today.

May we take pause to bless this marriage: (Click here for some Optional Prayers)
May your love grow and bring you peace and joy on life's path. From each other, may you always find communication, compassion, tolerance, understanding, and forgiveness. And, to each other, may you always be best friends, companions, lovers, partners, and teachers. May your home always radiate an environment of love, happiness, and unity. And whoever enters your home, may they be blessed and inspired by the harmony and love that dwells there.

May the love of God be above you to overshadow you, beneath you to uphold you, before you to guide you, behind you to protect you, close beside you and within you to make you able for all things, and to reward your faithfulness with the joy and peace which the world cannot give -- neither can it take away. Divine Spirit, we leave this marriage in your hands. Amen

By the power vested in me by the State of Hawaii, I now pronounce you husband and wife!

Those whom Spirit has joined together let no one separate.
You may seal this blessing with a kiss!

Congratulations!

Traditional Ceremony (substiture "Bride" and "Groom" with your names)

Friends, we are gathered together in the sight of God to witness and bless the joining together of Groom and Bride in marriage.

Welcome to this celebration of love. Bride and Groom, may this __th day of _______ in the year 2011, be a moment in time to be remembered and cherished. Today, we celebrate your love. Love is the foundation, the very essence of life. It must be cared for, tended to, and nourished if it is to grow, become strong, and thrive.

Groom and Bride, the vows you are about to take are not to be taken without careful thought and prayer. For in them you are committing yourselves exclusively, the one to the other for as long as you both shall live

We say in Hawaii:
Aloha ika ho'o manawanui. Aloha ika loko maika'i.
Aloha ike kahi, ike kahi.
Love is patient. Love is kind. Love begets love.

Marriage is a very special spiritual connection of two people united on a common path, bringing together love and trust into a single focus. At the same time, your love should give you the strength to stand apart, to seek out your unique destinies, and to grow as individuals.

Reading from Kahlil Gibran:(OR ANOTHER READING OF YOUR CHOICE)
“Love one another, but make not a bond of love:
Let it rather be a moving sea between the shores of your souls.
Fill each other's cup but drink not from one cup.
Give one another of your bread but eat not from the same loaf.
Sing and dance together and be joyous, but let each one of you be alone,
Even as the strings of a lute are alone
Though they quiver with the same music.
Give your hearts, but not into each other's keeping.
For only the hand of Life can contain your hearts.
And stand together yet not too near together:
For the pillars of the temple stand apart,
And the oak tree and the cypress grow not in each other's shadow.
Let there be spaces in your togetherness,
And let the winds of the heavens dance between you.”

Marriage requires the faith and commitment of two people to love, to stand by each other, and to support one another through both the good times and the difficult. This commitment is the alignment of your words, which speak boldly of your intentions, and your actions, which speak louder than your words.

Groom and Bride you have come to give yourselves to one another in this holy covenant.
I ask you now, in the presence of God, to declare your intention to enter into union with one another.

Bride, will you have Groom to be your husband, to live together in holy marriage? Will you love him, comfort him, honor and keep him, in sickness and in health, and forsaking all others, be faithful to him as long as you both shall live?

(Bride, “I will”)

Groom, will you have Bride to be your wife, to live together in holy marriage? Will you love her, comfort her, honor and keep her, in sickness and in health, and forsaking all others, be faithful to her as long as you both shall live?

(Groom “I will”)

Bride and Groom face each other and join hands
(You can also do a lei exchange, if you want to)

Reading: Cor. 13: 4-7 (OR ANOTHER READING OF YOUR CHOICE)
Love is patient, love is kind and envies no one. Love is never boastful, nor conceited nor rude, never selfish, and not quick to take offense. Love keeps no score of wrongs, does not gloat over other man's sins but delights in the truth. There is no thing love can not face, there is no limit to its faith, its hope, and its endurance.

Vows: (Look into each other's eyes and repeat after me)
I Groom, take you, Bride, to be my wife,
to have and to hold from this day forward,
for better, for worse,
for richer, for poorer,
in sickness and in health,
to love and to cherish,
until death do we part.
This is my solemn vow.

I ,Bride, take you, Groom, to be my husband,
to have and to hold from this day forward,
for better, for worse,
for richer, for poorer,
in sickness and in health,
to love and to cherish,
until death do we part.
This is my solemn vow.

Ring Exchange
These rings are the outward and visible sign of an inward and spiritual grace signifying to us the union of Groom and Bride. These rings are symbols of the unbroken unity of love, now to be continued in your married life. The circle has no beginning and no end; it is eternal and everlasting.

As you place the ring on your beloved's hand and as you receive the ring from the hand of your beloved, remember that this will be the first hand extended to pick you up when you have fallen down and it will be the first hand raised to toast all of your joys and all of your successes from this day forward and forevermore.

Bless, O Lord, the giving of these rings, that they who wear them may live in your peace and continue in your favor all the days of their lives. Amen

(Repeat after me)

Bride, I give you this ring as a sign of my vow, and with all that I am, and all that I have, I honor you.

Groom, I give you this ring as a sign of my vow, and with all that I am, and all that I have, I honor you.

(You can insert a prayer or reading of your choice here, if you wish….)

Pronouncement
You have declared your consent and vows before God. May God confirm your covenant and fill you both with grace.

I announce you husband and wife! Those whom God has joined together, let no one put asunder. Amen

You may kiss the Bride

Congratulations!

Vow Renewals

For Vow Renewals, choose either the traditional or non-traditional ceremony (or another of your choice) and we will insert the following passage to acknowledge that this is a renewal:

"Renewing your vows is even a stronger statement of your intention and commitment than saying them the first time. When we first get married, we are hopeful and are often entering into a mysterious unknown entity called marriage. But, when you choose to renew your vows after being together for a period of time, you are making a choice from a place of knowledge. You are choosing each other. You are choosing to stay together. Today, you are choosing to strengthen your commitment to each other."

Additional personalized passages integrating blending families or other family members can also be added.

Optional Readings (or another of your choice....prayers, song lyrics, poetry....

Art of Marriage

The little things are the big things.
It is never being too old to hold hands.
It is remembering to say "I love you" at least once a day.

It is never going to sleep angry.
It is at no time taking the other for granted;
the courtship should not end with the honeymoon,
it should continue through all the years.

It is having a mutual sense of values and common objectives.
It is standing together facing the world.
It is forming a circle of love that gathers in the whole family.
It is doing things for each other, not in the attitude
of duty or sacrifice,
but in the spirit of joy.

It is speaking words of appreciation and demonstrating
gratitude in thoughtful ways.
It is not expecting the husband to wear a halo or the wife to have wings of an
angel.
It is not looking for perfection in each other.

It is cultivating flexibility, patience, understanding and a
sense of humor.
It is having the capacity to forgive and forget.
It is giving each other an atmosphere in
which each can grow.

It is finding room for the things of the spirit.
It is a common search for the good and
the beautiful.
It is establishing a relationship in which the independence is equal, dependence is mutual and
the obligation is reciprocal.
It is not only marrying the right partner,
it is being the right partner.

I Love You°®, by Roy Croft
I love you, not only for what you are, but for what I am when I am with you.
I love you, not only for what you have made of yourself, but for what you are making of me.
I love you, for the part of me that you bring out.
I love you, for putting your hand into my heaped-up heart, and passing over all the foolish, weak things that you cant help dimly seeing there, and for drawing out, into the light, all the beautiful belongings that no one else had looked quite far enough to find.
I love you, because you are helping me to make of the lumber of my life, not a tavern, but a temple. Out of the works of my every day, not a reproach, but a song.
I love you, because you have done more than any creed could have done to make me good, and more than any fate could have done to make me happy. You have done it without a touch, without a word, without a sign. You have done it by being yourself.
Perhaps that is what being a friend means, after all.°®

Additional personalized passages integrating blending families or other family members can also be added.

Optional Prayers (or another one of your choice):

Christian Bible Passages:

1 Corinthians 13
If I speak in the tongues of men and of angels,
but have not love,
I am only a resounding gong or a clanging cymbal.
If I have the gift of prophecy and can fathom all mysteries and all knowledge,
and if I have a faith that can move mountains,
but have not love, I am nothing.
If I give all I possess to the poor and surrender my body to the flames,
but have not love, I gain nothing.
Love is patient, love is kind.
It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud.
It is not rude, it is not self-seeking,
it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs.
Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth.
It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.
Love never fails.

Ephesians 5:25-33 )
“Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing with water through the word, and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless.
“In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. After all, no one ever hated his own body, but he feeds and cares for it, just as Christ does the church- for we are members of his body.
"For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh. This is a profound mystery-but I am talking about Christ and the church. However, each one of you also must love and respect his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must love and respect her husband.

Proverbs 3:3-6
Let love and faithfulness never leave you;
bind them around your neck,
write them on the tablet of your heart.
Then you will win favor and a good name
in the sight of God and man.
Trust in the LORD with all your heart
and lean not on your own understanding;
in all your ways acknowledge him,
and he will make your paths straight. [a]

Dear Lord,
Help Bride and Groom remember the time they first met, and the strong love that grew between them. Help them to apply that love in practical things so that nothing divides them. We humbly ask for kind words filled with love, and hearts always ready to ask forgiveness as well as to forgive.
Divine Spirit, we leave this marriage in your hands. Amen.

Buddhist:
Through the working of Great Compassion in your hearts,
May you have happiness and cause happiness,
May you be free from sorrow and of causing sorrow;
May you never be separated from the sacred;
May you come to peace and be free of attachment,
May you be compassionate to all, and set your feet on the Path which leads from illusion and sorrow to Enlightenment and Peace.
And live honoring the beauty of all beings.

St. Francis' Prayer

Lord, make us an instruments of your peace;
where there is hatred, let us sow love;
where there is injury, pardon:
where there is doubt, faith ;
where there is despair, hope
where there is darkness, light
where there is sadness, joy
O divine Master,
grant that we may not so much seek to be consoled as to console;
to be understood, as to understand;
to be loved, as to love;
for it is in giving that we receive,
it is in pardoning that we are pardoned,
and it is in dying that we are born to Eternal Life.

Harry K. Zeller, from the BRETHREN HYMNAL

And, now may the courage of the early morning's dawning,
The strength of eternal hills and wife open fields,
The joy of silent streams and of the gentle wind,
The beauty of flowered gardens and the song of birds,
And the faith of youth be in your hearts:
And the love of God, that alone can build happiness
That makes family love flourish with the radiance of great joy,
Be with you always:
And the peace of a quiet evening's ending
And of the midnight,
Be yours now and forever.(For Christian Ceremony you can add: Through Jesus Christ, our Lord, to whom be glory now and evermore. Amen.)